My husband used to ask me this, out a desire to figure out what he could do to get me all hot and bothered and in the mood for some hot and heavy passionate sex.
The problem is there is not a simple answer. Women are complicated. Or as my husband puts it "Women are tricky." What worked the last time won’t necessarily work the next time. There is no simple answer, but there is a way to consistently get a woman horny.
To tell you the truth, I don’t even know why there are times when I get so turned by my husband I am aching to tear his clothes off and jump his bones.
I must admit since I started taking responsibility for my own sexuality and developing my sexual responsiveness by changing my diet and exercising my vagina muscles and using my sexuality to express my femininity (with my husband if you know what I mean), it is a whole lot easier to get turned on and get things moving quickly. And the finish (orgasm) is sooooo much easier and better now thanks to my discovery and use of the Make Women Orgasm...
The pelvic exercise, diet and mental attitude changes don’t completely explain why I sometimes get really turned on by my husband though. Unlike men, arousal for a woman is only partly physical. Granted a woman’s sexual engine must be running smoothly for her to get turned on, but the emotional and psychological triggers are hard to explain.
It’s kind of like asking a guy why he gets turned on by an attractive woman. Him saying he is attracted to a woman because she is "hot" or "sexy" doesn’t say what it is about her that makes her "sexy". He could say it is her curves or her breasts or her butt. But if you ask him why that makes her attractive he will most likely say something like "it just does" and not be able to really explain why.
A guy just knows he is attracted to a woman’s charms. A "woman’s charms" are pretty well understood by men---and women for that matter. But a "man’s charms" or in other words what it is about a man that turns a woman on is harder to define. Even for us women. We can say this or that turns us on but in reality it is often something totally different from what we think. Many times women are not even consciously aware of what turns us on sexually. We just know when we are turned on and not necessarily how we got that way.
No wonder men say they don’t know what women want, because we often don’t know ourselves. And while we may not know what we want, we do respond when we get it! We can't help it, it is how we are made. And while we may respond (as in getting all hot and bothered), we don't always act (as in jumping a man's bones).
I can tell you one thing for sure. Knowing the latest and greatest sex techniques doesn’t get a woman turned on. Knowing how to pleasure a woman is great once she is turned on, but that knowledge alone won’t get her turned on in the first place and ready to jump a man’s bones.
Another common mistake is thinking that making a woman feel loved and cherished will also make her horny. I know this must be confusing because a lot of relationship gurus talk about how important the "relationship" is to a woman. This is true and having a good relationship is important to a woman and makes her open to the idea of having sex, but feeling loved and cherished does not get a woman sexually aroused and craving to be with her man sexually.
So if being a good man, making a woman feel loved, and doing romantic things aren’t the key to getting a woman horny and crazy for sex, then what will? The answer is: Seduction!
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